I get a lot of questions about whether wedding favors are required or not. I often respond with, “…you should do whatever you want,” which I still believe. All weddings are about the couple and however you choose to express your style and gratitude.
So, with that in mind. Do I like favors? Yes, if they are thoughtful. Think about your guests’ experience. Is your favor going to be something they use after they leave the wedding? For me, if there are leftover favors at the end of the night, I always take one as a keepsake for the special day. Some of the best favors I have collected over the years are…
- something you can eat (candy, sweets, I even acquired a small liqueur from one wedding this year)
- something you can grow (seeds or succulents)
- something commonly used in a home (I have received ice cream scoops and many wine glasses – make sure if you pick this category it is something of higher quality otherwise they will opt to keep using their originals)
- something personal (a favorite item of the couple or a family tradition)
Favors are intended to be a thank you to your guests. That doesn’t necessarily mean that it has to be an item. I also consider special experiences favors. Something like…
- a photo booth that guests are able to take their photos from
- a candy or dessert bar often above and beyond the traditional cake dessert
- a seasonal drink bar (think hot cocoa or hot cider)
One more thought on favors. If you are not sure if you have picked something everyone will like, don’t order one for everyone! It is common to have favors pre-set at seats, but it is also common to have a table with favors and a sign telling what they are and to take one. If you have them on a table, you can easily get away with ordering 75% of your total guest list assuming some guests won’t partake.
And finally, my proof that I keep and treasure all my favors. These succulents were tiny, maybe the size of a half dollar, when I received them last July. Even since this photo was taken they have grown. The large one is about the size of my head now! Every time I look at them I remember the wedding and the Erin & Ed’s beautiful day!